Titus 2: 1, But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine.
Richard Baxter: Make careful choice of the books which you read: let the holy scriptures ever have the pre-eminence, and, next to them, those solid, lively, heavenly treatises which best expound and apply the scriptures, and next, credible histories, especially of the Church … but take heed of false teachers who would corrupt your understandings.
Not every so-called Christian teacher, writer, podcaster, or speaker seeks to honor God. This is true even of those who are extolled by many in the church, applauded by Christians, and whose name is tossed around in Christian circles like so-much confetti.
From such, you must stay away.
2 Timothy 3: 18-17, All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.
This is one reason why it is so important for godly men to monitor what their wives read. They will one day stand before the Lord and answer to Him for the spiritual influences they allowed their family to be fed by. If they must so answer, they are then called to oversee, guide, reject, and even make demands on the spiritual food upon which their family, including their wives, feed.
This isn’t popular to say but it is truth, nonetheless. Scripture says so.
Sisters, we must pray for discernment. We must develop a love of truth. Our supreme desire must be to honor God and bring Him glory and along with this, we must honor and respect our husband’s guidance.
Pray for your husband to be wise and then listen to him.
Yes, women need sound theology. Yes, you must answer to God as to whether you obeyed your husband. And, yes, your husband will answer to God about what he’s allowed you to be fed.
A couple of things to remember: If we made it a rule not to take our theology from women, women like Beth Moore, Christine Caine, Joyce Meyer, Aimee Byrd, and so many others wouldn’t have a platform. Another, popular theology is rarely sound theology. Women are more easily misled than men. This is true of those who teach and those who are seeking to learn. Also, those seeking popularity are rarely seeking to honor God.
Even in the Reformed church we’re caving on long embraced and believed tenets of the faith. Once men start listening to and enabling women, chaos always follows. That’s where we find ourselves now. So many are arguing against husbands having this kind of influence over their wives. Should husbands really be able to say “read this but not that”? Yes, he should. He has much more influence than that, too. Influence which is oft ignored.
Women are more easily misled than men, we are more emotional than men. God appointed them to guide us for a reason.
Because of our emotional nature, we are often swayed by our feelings. While in day to day life, our feelings are good, even necessary, being led by our feelings when it comes to theology is very dangerous:
1 Timothy 6: 3-5, If anyone teaches a different doctrine and does not agree with the sound words of our Lord Jesus Christ and the teaching that accords with godliness, he is puffed up with conceit and understands nothing. He has an unhealthy craving for controversy and for quarrels about words, which produce envy, dissension, slander, evil suspicions, and constant friction among people who are depraved in mind and deprived of the truth, imagining that godliness is a means of gain.
The slippery slope is truly slippery and we’re tumbling down it. Once we give way on one point of “Hath God said…?” many more follow.
Sisters, I beg you, pray for your husband and then get out of his way and don’t fight him when he leads.
Soli Deo Gloria!