Sisters, feminism has so impacted our understanding of the roles of men and women that our society can no longer define what a woman is. Even the church often downplays the unique physical and emotional makeup of woman and oft ignores the God-appointed roles of wife, mother, and homemaker. We have long been brainwashed to believe that a woman is valuable anywhere but in the home. We’ve been programed to believe that a woman’s duties as a homemaker and mother aren’t all that important and can be fulfilled by anyone willing to accept a paycheck.
“How dare you say ‘Oh, so you are just a homemaker’ to the hero of my children.” – Sinclair Ferguson
Sisters, Genesis 2: 23 teaches that man was created first and therefore is the head of the woman; the woman was created out of his rib and is therefore subject to him. From the beginning, God created Adam to rule. It follows that men are to be the head of the home, leaders in the church, and in society.
The man is to protect and defend his wife. He is responsible for the care of his wife and his children. He alone is responsible for their provision, spiritual training, and for their well being.
Titus 2: 3-5 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
A woman’s sphere is under the man, in submission to him, and is focused in the home, in service of her husband and children. She is the husband’s helpmeet, nurtures children, and cares for the home. She is called to love, honor, and respect her husband. Being a wife, mother, and homemaker is a glorious and beautiful way to serve our Lord, our families, and the church.
But feminism argues that the designs, purposes, and roles of men and women do not matter or that they are interchangeable.
We need to regain God’s definition of manhood and womanhood. God’s standard for manhood and womanhood has remained the same since the days of Adam and Eve. It will not change because He doesn’t change.
The job given to women by God is one only we can do, sisters. It’s far too important to lay aside to pursue the realms God has given to men. We aren’t made to do the same thing men do; men already do it and do it far better than any woman could. Women aren’t designed to look, act, dress, or imitate men; not only is this sinful but we are physically incapable of fulfilling men’s roles. We dishonor God and blaspheme His Word when we try.
Women are the weaker sex. We were designed to be the helper men need. Our purpose is important and when we eschew it, we invite disaster.
Your job as wife, mother, homemaker, and teacher of younger women cannot be done by anyone but you. God called you to this. When you don’t do it, your family suffers. Your husband needs you, not to be like him, or to compete with him, but to love and care for him. Your children need you in the home, loving and caring for them. As you grow older, your younger sisters need you to be an example, and to teach them how to honor God as Titus 2 women.
Sisters, your work in the home is vastly important. No one can do it for your family but you. No one can love your husband as you will. There’s no one who can ever take your place as the nurturer of your children.
Even as society tells you otherwise, your position in the home matters.
No matter if your church never acknowledges it, your work is important.
Even if you stand alone among your friends and family, when your friends laugh at you, your husband and your children need you.
God gave you this job. God values your place in the home, your loving and respectful obedience and submission to your husband, and your love for your children. He created you for this.
Sisters, the church may be full of feminists who don’t understand our calling, society may look down on us and malign our efforts, we may feel ignored and overlooked, but we have a calling from our Lord. Our families will suffer if we do not fulfill our calling. Let us prayerfully seek to fulfill it.
Soli Deo Gloria!
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