Titus 2: 3-5, 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness,  not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober,  to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness.
I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.
For Adam was formed first, then Eve; – 1 Timothy 2:11-13
Paul grounds his argument in the creation order proving that this is not cultural.
Adam was made from the dirt, brought to the Garden, to work the dirt.
Eve was made from the man, brought to the man, to help the man.
Men are mission oriented.
Women are relationally oriented.
Young ladies, here are some things to watch out for and help know which of the stronger sex to avoid like a brain injury.
- Men who dress and look like slobs.
If a man is willing to present himself as a slob the chances are really good that he’s a slob.
Doesn’t care about his clothes
Doesn’t care about his hair
Doesn’t care about his breath
These are the signs of a habitually lazy man who will most likely allow the state of your family to match his slobiness(yes it’s a word…I just made it up)
Instead look for a man who is typically clean and groomed and wears clothing that is clean and fits.
This points to a man who is willing to put in more than just the necessary amount of work.
Some guys can play the occasional video game without it being a problem but if he can in any way be called a “gamer” then he is a man who is unwilling to answer the call of duty and not worth having.
Look instead for a man who has real skills in the real world be they digital or physical.
Look for a man who can control entertainment and not be controlled by it.
- Men who dress or act effeminate.
While you want a man who is intentional about how he presents himself, you do not want a man who obsesses over it.
The word translated “effeminate” in the New Testament means soft and pliable.
If he presents himself as soft, nice and super agreeable you need to reject his fuzzy foolishness and look elsewhere.
Instead, look for a young man who bears himself well and seems confident.
Strong and solid confidence is what you’re looking for as that type of man will stand between you and the world and not lay down under pressure.
- Men who have trouble holding down a job.
You’re looking for someone who can provide security for you and your children and a man who has trouble faithfully laboring is a bum who will always need his hand held while he cries.
Look instead for a man that you know would literally work himself to death with a smile on his face if that’s what it took.
Look for a worker.
- Men who don’t want children.
It is natural for a man to desire a heritage and to leave a legacy through his children.
A man who doesn’t want this is a man who hates responsibility so much that he’s willing to forgo legacy and building a heritage for the sake of a little freedom.
Look instead for a man who loves children(you will find this naturally very attractive) and recognizes them as a form of God given wealth.
- Men who won’t honor authority.
This is a man who doesn’t know how to lead because he has not learned how to follow.
Being married to him will be a pain.
Look instead for a man who understands the importance of authority and knows it’s place and limits.
- Men who are not direct.
This type of man may seem appealing as he seems to avoid controversy and fights but in reality he deals with problems through manipulation because he is a chicken and he will always be working the situation for what he wants.
If you want to always be emotionally and spiritually exhausted this is your guy.
Instead, look for a guy who is direct in his speech and how he deals with problems.
If you want to live without stress, this is your guy.
- Men who are physically undisciplined and lazy.
One way to tell if this is the case is by his weight.
If he is overweight as a young man the chances are he will only gain weight and you could spend more time than you should as a widow.
Look instead for a man who is fit enough to be able to protect you and whose lifespan is not shortened by the high chance of heart failure.
All of this with the assumption that you are only looking at professing believers as the scripture is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
Watch for these things whether online or in person and it will help.
Trust your father.
If a young man who checks these boxes asks for your hand…say yes.
He won’t wait and he won’t be available long.