Daughters and their future
Y’all remember the old Willie Nelson song, Mamas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to be Cowboys? Well my take on it is this: Mamas, don’t let your daughters grow up to be career women. And don’t let your son set his sights on one, either.
Titus 2: 3-5 commands older women to teach younger women to love their husbands, children, and home. In various places throughout Scripture, the Lord commands women to be home centered, to love their husbands, obey and submit to their husbands, and to raise children. Never once does Scripture command women to prepare to provide for their families or to prepare for careers.
Scripture does, however, command men to provide for their families.
Make homemaking great again
It used to be expected that young people would marry and start a family. In modern times, this has fallen out of favor. We now tell young folks to delay marriage, find themselves, prepare for a career, and have some fun. We tell them anything except to marry and raise up a family to God’s glory.
Our goal ought to be to teach our daughters to embrace the role of homemaker rather than to disparage it. Women brag that they can’t cook and in fact that they don’t even know how to boil water. Most can’t sew or organize or grow a garden. They laugh about these things as if it is some sort of badge of honor. It isn’t. It is a shame and a dishonor on these women as they are failing to prepare to have the skills and knowledge necessary to care for a husband, children, or a home. We laugh at such ignorance because we do not honor the Word of God.
That doesn’t mean that a woman oughtn’t have a way that she can make money should she need to. That’s only wise. But there’s myriad ways to go about this without spending some of her best young adult years getting deep in debt and being indoctrinated in leftist colleges.
Anti-woman or pro-woman
When we tell women that their value lies in acting like a man by preparing to provide for a family like a man, that is far from being pro-woman as one can be. Worse, it denies God’s creation order. The very fact that we have to discuss whether women ought to be homemakers or career women is a mark as to how far the church’s teaching on women’s God ordained and designed purpose has fallen.
Feminism has so poisoned the church that most churches do not address the differences in men and women. We see the duties as interchangeable. Men’s duties are never seen as constricting but women are told constantly that theirs are. As a consequent of this secularized thinking, we don’t tell our daughters to learn the domestic arts so that she might prepare herself as a future wife and mother.
To be pro-woman (I hate that term), you must first look at what a woman’s purpose really is. Scripture tells us that in Genesis 2: 18, “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” The Lord didn’t design us to be career women. From the beginning, a woman’s purpose was to be a helper to a man. Not to be a man herself, nor to be like a man, but to be his helper, his companion, and his wife. So to be pro-woman (I still hate that term) means that we must tell women the truth about their real purpose and help them to prepare for it.
Say that and watch the feminists have a melt down.
It comes down to this: Mama, the very best thing you can do for your daughter is to, through your teaching and your example teach her to love the Lord and His ways–including His command that she prepare to be a lover of her husband, children, and a keeper of her home.
Soli Deo Gloria!