Daughters and their future
Y’all remember the old Willie Nelson song, Mamas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to be Cowboys? Well my take on it is this: Mamas, don’t let your daughters grow up to be career women. And don’t let your son set his sights on one, either.
Titus 2: 3-5 commands older women to teach younger women to love their husbands, children, and home. In various places throughout Scripture, the Lord commands women to be home centered, to love their husbands, obey and submit to their husbands, and to raise children. Never once does Scripture command women to prepare to provide for their families or to prepare for careers.
Scripture does, however, command men to provide for their families.
Make homemaking great again
It used to be expected that young people would marry and start a family. In modern times, this has fallen out of favor. We now tell young folks to delay marriage, find themselves, prepare for a career, and have some fun. We tell them anything except to marry and raise up a family to God’s glory.
Our goal ought to be to teach our daughters to embrace the role of homemaker rather than to disparage it. Women brag that they can’t cook and in fact that they don’t even know how to boil water. Most can’t sew or organize or grow a garden. They laugh about these things as if it is some sort of badge of honor. It isn’t. It is a shame and a dishonor on these women as they are failing to prepare to have the skills and knowledge necessary to care for a husband, children, or a home. We laugh at such ignorance because we do not honor the Word of God.
That doesn’t mean that a woman oughtn’t have a way that she can make money should she need to. That’s only wise. But there’s myriad ways to go about this without spending some of her best young adult years getting deep in debt and being indoctrinated in leftist colleges.
Anti-woman or pro-woman
When we tell women that their value lies in acting like a man by preparing to provide for a family like a man, that is far from being pro-woman as one can be. Worse, it denies God’s creation order. The very fact that we have to discuss whether women ought to be homemakers or career women is a mark as to how far the church’s teaching on women’s God ordained and designed purpose has fallen.
Feminism has so poisoned the church that most churches do not address the differences in men and women. We see the duties as interchangeable. Men’s duties are never seen as constricting but women are told constantly that theirs are. As a consequent of this secularized thinking, we don’t tell our daughters to learn the domestic arts so that she might prepare herself as a future wife and mother.
To be pro-woman (I hate that term), you must first look at what a woman’s purpose really is. Scripture tells us that in Genesis 2: 18, “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” The Lord didn’t design us to be career women. From the beginning, a woman’s purpose was to be a helper to a man. Not to be a man herself, nor to be like a man, but to be his helper, his companion, and his wife. So to be pro-woman (I still hate that term) means that we must tell women the truth about their real purpose and help them to prepare for it.
Say that and watch the feminists have a melt down.
It comes down to this: Mama, the very best thing you can do for your daughter is to, through your teaching and your example teach her to love the Lord and His ways–including His command that she prepare to be a lover of her husband, children, and a keeper of her home.
Soli Deo Gloria!
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Is it sin if single women work outside the home, even in career-type jobs (like marketing, IT, administrative assistant, etc. Something beyond waitress/cashier)? I know a career shouldn’t be our goal, and we shouldnt pursue one instead of marriage, but when a girl finds herself turning 18 then 20 then 25 with no marriage prospects, is it wrong that she has a job or ‘career’ in the mean time simply to support herself (not as her ‘value’ or purpose), even as she also prepares domestic skills? I know you’ve spoken against colleg/job training for ‘just in case’ before, but…sometimes marriage doesnt come for years and the ‘in case’ is reality. It’s hard to be in this situation, where the Lord hasn’t given a husband, and you feel that you’re in sin no matter what because you work outside the home. But…what do you do?
It isn’t a sin to take care of ourselves. I’m against college in general for men and women (except in very certain circumstances) because college is a scam these days, exceedingly liberal, terribly expensive, offering little value. However, here are many options for job prep out there. There are various certificates one can get, vocational schools, apprenticeships, one-on-one training, on the job training, and training in crafts (think wood carving, basketmaking, and blacksmithing type of thing). For women, there’s also baking, sewing, and so many other options. But, no, it’s not a sin to have to work–even in more of a career type of setting–if we have to in order to live. My mother went to work as a teen to support her brother and sister after her father died (and in that day and age, her mother was unable to find a job); later she worked to support herself and I when my drunken father refused to. Does this answer your question? I’ll pray for you. Soli Deo Gloria!
Good Evening! Many people know talk about toxic purity culture or patriarchy they are case of abuse and while I agree they are abusive men or people who feel guilty after sex even in marriage so How we handle these biblically but not as a feminist( i do think that sometimes they take advantage of these ) because sometimes I feel discourage when I see christian like distorting God’s teaching. Personally I have never hear someone who teach to be guilty after sex but to wait and aex is for karriage to be enjoy but I ultimately hear it about people talking of it.
Good evening, Good question. God says sex is only for marriage and it’s a blessing. In our modern world and worldly viewpoint, we have distorted this and taught that sex is not related to love and certainly not to marriage. Add this to the feministic viewpoint so many have and that’s where the feeling guilty after sex thing comes from. We ought to feel guilty if we have sex without marriage but it is wrong of the woman to then blame the man and perhaps accuse him of abuse or control. The only remedy is to speak the truth about marriage and sex and to pray that hearts might be opened to see the truth. SDG