When we’re young, we often find ourselves attracted to a cute guy simply because he’s, well, a cute guy. But then we grow up and we realize that a cute guy isn’t necessarily a good guy. Good looks don’t make a godly man. Only a man who loves the Lord more than he’ll ever love you is worthy of your consideration.
You need to marry a man who will be a man, not someone stuck in adolescence. Don’t look at his outward appearance; that will fade. Don’t choose a man simply because you have a lot in common. Never choose a guy simply because he makes you feel good about yourself, he makes a lot of money, he makes you laugh, or because he treats you well. A man can do all of those without loving Christ.
Don’t look for a man who claims to be a Christian but one you are sure is. Just because he goes to church with you, or is willing to accommodate your beliefs, doesn’t mean he’s a true believer. Look for a man whose life bears biblical fruit.
1 Timothy 6: 11, But as for you, O man of God, flee these things. Pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness.
If your man loves the Lord and His Word, and is obedient to Him, he will most assuredly love you. He will be steadfast, sober minded, focused, and mature. He will be a godly man who will treat you well because he’s a forgiven sinner. It will be his goal to provide for you and the children. He’ll tell you the truth about yourself rather than putting you on a pedestal from which you can easily fall but he’ll do so with grace. This is the kind of man you can build a life with, find joy with, and laugh with.
Seek a man who will guide you in ways of godliness. Look for a man who seeks God’s glory and honor in everything. Make certain he is a man who believes God’s Word and seeks to live it out. This man will be a solid spiritual leader to you, rather than a man who leads you astray. He will love you as Scripture commands a husband to love his wife. He will be willing to lay down his life for you.
A cute guy might make you feel good simply because other girls envy you for being his woman but if that’s all he has going for him, he’s a loser. Ignore the outside of a man and look for inward godly qualities. Look for a man who will be a man rather than a little boy. Some guys grow up and many never do. The man you spend time with now will one day be the man you marry. A cute guy with no spiritual foundation will always be a weakling. Seek a man who loves the Lord with all of his heart, mind, soul, and strength and you won’t have to wonder if your cute guy will ever be more than that.