God created women to be a helpmeet, that is a helper suitable to her husband. A helper comes alongside the one he is helping. A helper serves, he does whatever he can to make things work smoothly, to carry out the plans of the one he is serving. This is true for wives, also. Since she is her husband’s helper, she must help him carry out his plans and serve him.
Pastor Robert L. Dabney on a woman’s sphere… Photo by CDC on Unsplash
The Bible is a patriarchal book and thus biblical patriarchy–father rule–is a good thing and the way God meant for our world to function. Patriarchy has a bad name among many in the church but not because patriarchy itself is bad; rather, it has a bad name because it has been twisted, maligned, and misunderstood–often, intentionally.
Genesis 2: 18, “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” The Lord didn’t design us to be career women. From the beginning, a woman’s purpose was to be a helper to a man. Not to be a man herself, nor to be like a man, but to be his helper, his companion, and his wife.
Grandma was a small town Proverbs 31 woman who raised chickens, pigs, and cows, grew and canned vegetables, had a once a week laundry day when she’d boil and scrub her family’s clothing, and who cooked three full meals a day. She raised a family, took care of her home, helped those who had less than she, fed hungry hobos who would exchange a day’s work for a day’s food, attended church, read the Bible by the light of a kerosene lamp and, much later, under the light of real ones.