How Should We Think About Modesty?
1 Timothy 2: 9-10, “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But which becometh women professing godliness with good works.”
When we hear the word modesty, our thoughts usually turn first to clothing, to what a woman should or should not wear. While modesty does address the way we choose to clothe our bodies, it isn’t just about clothing. It’s a reflection of who we are in Christ.
Modesty is a willingness to be governed by humility, self-control, wisdom, and a desire to honor God. It shapes the way we dress, but it also shapes the way we speak, behave, carry ourselves, and interact with others.
Modesty is not exclusively a woman’s responsibility. Men can also behave or dress immodestly, and men are commanded not to lust. Yet Scripture speaks directly to women about modest apparel, and we should receive that instruction humbly rather than attempting to explain it away or blaming men.
God created women. He understands our hearts perfectly. His commands are never cruel or arbitrary. They are wise, good, and worthy of our trust.
Modesty has fallen out of favor in many churches because the church has become increasingly comfortable with the standards of the world. In our desire to appear modern, relevant, welcoming, and appealing, we have often borrowed the world’s values and brought them into Christian life. But we must remember that the question is never whether the culture approves of us. The question is whether Christ does.
To the world, living and dressing flamboyantly and saying or doing things to draw undue attention to ourselves are encouraged and admired. Without Christ, we’re all self-focused. We want attention. We desire to be admired, praised, and applauded. We seek glory for ourselves. But when we’re part of the body of Christ, that can no longer be our goal.
Luke 6:46, “And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?”
The modest Christian woman doesn’t ask, “Do I like this? Does it make me happy?” while ignoring what God’s Word says. She asks different questions, focusing on what God commands of her.
She asks:
“Does my clothing reflect godliness?”
“Am I trying to cause jealousy or envy in others?”
“Am I seeking the approval of others?”
“Does my outfit draw attention to areas of my body that should remain private?”
“Does the way I present myself honor the Lord whose name I bear?”
Modesty is not about making ourselves unattractive or joyless. Modesty does not require us to wear shapeless, unattractive clothing. A woman may dress beautifully, with good taste, showcasing her femininity while still displaying Christ-like humility, self-control, and modesty.
The only One whose approval should rule our hearts is the One who loved us and gave Himself for us.
John 14:15, “If ye love me, keep my commandments.”
Modesty itself must be for Christ’s glory. A woman may cover her body carefully and still be proud, harsh, attention-seeking, boastful, or self-righteous. True modesty cannot be separated from humility. Our life and our clothing should say, “Look to Christ,” rather than, “Look at me.”
Sisters, God’s command concerning modesty is worthy of our prayerful attention. May our lives point away from ourselves and toward the glory of Christ.
Soli Deo Gloria!
