Titus 2, 3-5, The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Sometimes Christians attempt to break down Titus 2 and Proverbs 31 to a list of skills and rules to follow. Following a list, even one based on Scripture, without the full context of Scripture to bring understanding, makes it easy to become legalistic.
This is true of Titus 2: 3-5 and Proverbs 31 as much as it is for anything else.
If Christ is not the reason that we teach our daughters to be a Titus 2/Proverbs 31 woman, then we aren’t teaching anything that’s worthwhile.
Obedience to God and bringing Him glory must always be our desire. Simply teaching our daughters a step-by-step program, teaching them to cook, sew, clean their homes, raise children and so on, void of the purpose of obedience to God and bringing Him glory, might make them a good housekeeper but it won’t help them to become a godly woman or wife.
Scripture must interpret Scripture for it to be understood correctly. We can’t divorce one part of it from another without losing the real meaning. Without context, without an overall knowledge of God’s Word, we can’t know Christ nor can we serve Him worthily.
I applaud women who want to raise their daughters to be keepers at home. I want that for my daughters, too. In a world gone mad, we need more good women who want to marry, have children, and be at home with them. But if they are seeking to become a wife or homemaker only because “this is what I was taught” or “to please my husband” or “because I want to”, they may make an impact on their family and even on others, but they won’t be making an impact for eternity.
And they won’t bring glory and honor to God.
The eternal value of being a godly woman, wife and mother far outweighs getting down a list to perfection. It’s good to know how to cook, clean, sew, garden, and teach children three times five. It’s good to strive to honor our husbands, love our children, and pass down domestic skills. It’s best to do it so that God might be honored.
God is honored when women, seeking to obey Him, use their time, efforts, and talents to bless their families and others.
Jesus is the reason for everything. He’s the reason we live, breathe and have our being. He’s also the reason we are to teach our daughters holiness, to be keepers at home, to be pure and to love their families. If we don’t remember that, we have failed.