Feminism has proven destructive to women, to families, and homes. Today those who embrace it have their sight set on the church. The end game is to put women in the pulpit and to denigrate the duties of men in the home, church, and society. To this end, they’ve made tremendous headway.
God designed women and men for very specific purposes. He defined our duties.
The wife’s purpose is one of submission and subordination, to be a wife, mother, and keeper at home. She is the inferior–not in worth but position.
The husband’s duty is to be the head of their wife, to be the spiritual head of the family, the protector, provider, and defender of his family. God designed the man as the superior–not in worth but in position.
Genesis 2: 18, Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
William Gouge, “Nature has placed an eminency in the male over the female: so as where they are linked together in one yoke, it is given by nature that he should govern, she obey. This did the Heathen by light of nature observe” (Treatise 3, p. 158).
1 Peter 3: 1, Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,
The duties of men and women are a vital part of God’s plan for mankind. This plan extends to the church and to society. Somewhere along the way, we lost sight of that. The church stopped teaching it. Families embraced lies. Few young women were taught the purpose for which God created them. Feminism had invaded our beliefs.
Women headed the call of the wild, that is the call to the workaday world, the corporate ranks, and others, ousting men from the jobs they needed to support their families. The church did little to combat this.
What was the result? Marriage was delayed. Babies avoided or aborted. Children went into daycare. Husbands were left to care for themselves. And women, blind as to what they were doing, celebrated their sin. Women are more discontent than ever but completely blind as to why.
Angry and demanding women continue to laud and embrace feminism. They have long set their sites on the pulpit. In many churches, they’ve won it. They aim to win it in the Reformed church also.
James 4: 17, So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
The gifting of women
The Lord gifted women with the traits and abilities they need to be a help-meet to a husband, a mother to children, and a homemaker who nurtures her family. If God had designed women to fill the public sphere, to lead nations, to guide families, or to pastor churches, He would have made that clear in His Word. Rather, He clearly set forth the directive for women to learn to love their husbands and children and to be keepers at home.
Titus 2: 3-5, 3 Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
The teaching of the church
Sisters, we cannot define our position in light of modernity and be pleasing to the Lord. Once we insist on our own way in one area, other areas are sure to follow. Sin follows sin naturally.
The Lord mandated the wife’s submission in marriage. He also mandated her role in the church and society. This is all bound up in creation order. While many women rail against this idea, this was the clear teaching of the church until the onset of feminism.
1 Timothy 2: 11-15, 11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve; 14 and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. 15 Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control.
Did God really say?
Women have pushed against the role God appointed to them since the beginning of time. Starting with Eve to Third Wave Feminism, the ill infecting our churches, our homes, and society, is feminism in all its inglorious design. The scourge of feminism has been devastating.
Ephesians 5: 24, “Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”
God’s Word, from Genesis to Revelation, emphasizes God’s created order. Mothers and fathers, older women, even pastors and elders have failed to take a stand for God’s appointed roles. Their failure to stand on truth allowed feminism to ravage the church.
Who stands on Scripture? Almost no one. Most women don’t know, they don’t understand. So many believe the lies that to be a wife and mother means bondage. To them, Scriptural duties don’t matter because they’ve never been told that they do. They see them as old-fashioned and no longer applicable to the modern woman. To be told otherwise means being they are being denied that which is good in their eyes. Like Eve, they listen when Satan asks, “Did God really say?”
The created order is beautiful. Women are in bondage only when they refuse to obey God and pursues worldly goals instead. When women embrace feminism, they are choosing the world over Christ.
Sisters, if we’re not content with our place in the home as wives, mothers, and homemakers, we’re not going to be content anywhere. If we constantly push for the next thing we will only hit the wall of discontent again and again.
Give us the corporate world? We want construction. Give us that, we want the military, police departments, and to be chiefs in fire departments. But even that isn’t enough. If we can fill men’s positions in one area, we can certainly fill it in another…right? After all, we’re women. Hear us roar.
Is there any area women haven’t invaded or taken from men? Not even the church has been spared.
Feminism has affected women, families, and churches in undeniable ways. It has destroyed denominations. But even as others fell, the Reformed church stood on the Word of God as inerrant and infallible. We understood the creation mandate, the roles of men and women in the homes and in the churches. That time is no more.
God very often gives us our heart’s desires. If our heart’s desire leads us to continue to reject the creation mandate and to ignore our roles as wives, mothers, and keepers of the home, destruction cannot be far behind.
I beg you, pray. Search the Scriptures and as you do, ask the Holy Spirit to search your heart. Let the Lord’s Word mold your will and your goals. Repent and seek contentment in that role that God appointed to you. He saw it as so important that He said that if women fulfill the role, His Word will not be blasphemed. The glory of God and the honor of His Word is at stake.
Feminism impacted the church for evil. Through our obedience to God, you and I can help undo that destruction. Are you willing?
Soli Deo Gloria!