The importance of sound resources
The Lord commands us to study to show ourselves approved. Thus, I have always sought out Christ-centered and practical resources for my sons. That’s the purpose of this page. As I have collected, used, or vetted out resources, I saved them. Perhaps every resource here will not be of use to you but perhaps some will. ~Soli Deo Gloria!
(Scroll down towards bottom of page for recommended books)
Patriarchal means father-led. Patriarchy honors the Lord and offers protection, guidance, leadership, and provision for women and children.
The church, our nation, and our homes are desperately in need of men who are willing to be men. Men have long bowed to feminism and given their strength to women by allowing women to cow them, rule over them, shame them into acting like boys and even more like women. This absolutely needs to stop. Men need to repent of being less than men. This is what I want my sons to understand. This is the purpose of these suggested resources. Obviously most of these are better suited for mid-teens and older, though many of the videos and books were used by my sons by age 11. For younger children, check out this page.
We make men without chests and expect from them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst.~ C. S. Lewis
Trail Life From their website: “Trail Life USA is a Church-Based, Christ-Centered, Boy-Focused mentoring and discipleship journey that speaks to the heart of a boy. Established on timeless values derived from the Bible and set in the context of outdoor adventure, boys from Kindergarten through 12th grade are engaged in a Troop setting by male mentors where they are challenged to grow in character, understand their purpose, serve their community, and develop practical leadership skills to carry out the mission for which they were created.”
Paul encouraged the Corinthian church, “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” (1 Cor. 16:13) Paul is in essence saying, “Don’t act like women!” He is saying; Be watchful, like men! Stand firm in the faith, like men! Be strong, like men! Act like men! This is a message Satan and the world doesn’t want us to hear. It is countercultural. ~Rich Tuttle
All of Christ, for All of Life (Canon Press)
The Antithesis (Owen Strachan)
Apologia Radio (Jeff Durbin)
Out of the Question Podcast (Chalcedon Foundation)
The Particular Baptist (Podcast on YouTube)
Reconstructionist Radio (podcasts)
SOCIETY OF REFORMED PODCASTERS (Doctrinally sound podcasts from a reformed perspective)
“What a man is not, Biblical Manhood” Paul Washer (series)
A Young Man’s Attitude Towards Women Paul Washer
Thoughts on manliness
“God has called men to defend His truth in the world and to live out its precepts. Yet, a look at the average evangelical Christian home will reveal that it too has been feminized to a large degree. Radical, Christ-hating feminist have transformed our homes, and Christian men have hardly objected to this or contested for the holy ground of a biblically patterned family. Furthermore, Christian husbands and fathers have also shown cowardice in their failure to lead and take up the responsibilities that God has given to them. They have been more than willing to shuck the full burden of leading and providing for their families; they have been more than to happy to share (or unload) these burdens with (or on) their wife. The family has been feminized because Christian men retreated from their duty.” ~William Einwechter
How often have we heard an excuse for heresy made out of the desire to impress “thoughtful young men”! Young men, whether thoughtful or otherwise, are best impressed by the gospel, and it is folly to dream that any preaching which leaves out the truth is suitable to men, either old or young. We shall not quit the Word to please the young men, nor even the young women. This truckling to young men is a mere pretence; young men are no more fond of false doctrine than are the middle-aged; and if they are, there is so much the more necessity to teach them better. Young men are more impressed by the old gospel than by ephemeral speculations. If any of you wish to preach a gospel that will be pleasing to the times, preach it in the power of the devil, and I have no doubt that he will willingly do his best for you. It is not to such servants of men that I desire to speak just now. I trust that, if ever any of you should err from the faith, and take up with the new theology, you will be too honest to pray for power from God with which to preach that mischievous delusion if you should do so, you will be guilty of constructive blasphemy. No, brethren, it is not our object to please men, but our design is far nobler. ~ Charles Spurgeon
No woman wants soft men they can manipulate how they want. They want kind, but mature men. ~Thomas Bjerkholt
It’s a part of the very most important aspect of a man’s identity to take care of women and children. ~Fredrik Skagen
“Christian law has crowned the husband. It has given him—or should I say ‘inflicted on’ him—a kind of leadership. The perfect embodiment of this leadership is not in the husband we all wish to be, but in him whose marriage is more like a crucifixion. The anointing for this dreadful coronation is not seen in the joys of a man’s marriage but in its sorrows. The husband who has a leadership that is Christ-like—and that is the only kind that is allowed—will never give up”.~C.S. Lewis
Scripturally, a godly man must be:
- Above reproach: blameless, not able to be accused, having a good reputation.
- The husband of one wife: a pattern of singular affection for one’s wife.
- Sober-minded: temperate, alert, clear-headed, watchful.
- Self-controlled: in control of thinking, emotions and passions; prudent, thoughtful, decent.
- Respectable: orderly in time, responsibilities, and behavior; not chaotic.
- Hospitable: welcoming to others, loves strangers, serves others.
- Gentle: considerate, gracious, patient, kind in dealing with others.
- He must manage his own household well: governs, presides over, has authority over; is faithful to lead spiritually, cares for, protects; has children who are not riotous or insubordinate; oversees and/or fulfills affairs of the home.
- A lover of good: loves virtue and good men.
- Upright: just; upholds righteousness.
- Holy: pure, devout.
- Disciplined: persevering, steadfast, restrained.
- Holding firm to the Word: learns and upholds sound doctrine; holds to it tightly; able to exhort and convict
In contrast, a godly man must not be:
- A drunkard: not addicted to strong drink.
- Violent: violent, quickly angered, explosively angry.
- Quarrelsome: contentious, argumentative.
- A lover of money: covetous, greedy for money, materialistic.
- Arrogant (self-willed) rather than a steward: pushing his own ideas, desires, goals or gain.
- Quick tempered: inclined to anger habitually; quickly angry. ~Stuart W. Scott
A Husband’s Covenant Commitments by Douglas Wilson
He must first decide that he will thoroughly acquaint himself with the Bible’s teachings on marriage, headship, and the family, and that he will gladly submit to it, and put it into practice in his home.
He will find himself able to say with understanding, for the first time, “as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
He will love his wife as Christ loved the Church, giving himself up for her. He will assume the responsibility for her loveliness.
He will not place any responsibility for the spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial condition of his household on his parents, wife, children, church, or society. He will assume, before the Lord, all responsibility for the home he represents before God, and he will pray for the grace to stand.
He will not allow his children to be taught, educated, or raised by men and women who live in rebellion against God. He will remove his children from the government schools and educate them at home in a godly school.
He will not take his wife away from her primary duties as a mother and manager of the home. He will bring her home to the children, the place God ordained for her to be, and he will encourage and love her in that vocation. He will establish her in the place where she can attain greatness, and when she has attained it, he will rise up and call her blessed.
He will not mistake the love for his wife that God requires of him with the counterfeit “niceness” that abdicates his responsibility for leadership. He will teach his wife the Word of God, and together they will teach their children.
He will work hard so that his wife is able to clothe and feed the family.He will be devoted to his wife sexually, treating her with understanding and wisdom.
He will set the tone of his home through his patience, reverence, dignity, kindness, and courtesy.
And he will thank God for His mercy, through the Lord Jesus Christ. (Reforming Marriage)
The mature man, who is he? He is responsible. He takes responsibility for his own life and that of others. The mature man is responsible and grown up, in contrast to the one who is irresponsible and childish. He takes personal and moral responsibility – in his home, at his work-place, in the church and in society.~Thomas Bjerkholt
It’s important to me that my sons are immersed in Christ-centered teachings that help them to grow into godly men. I like to buy my men sound books and often they buy them for themselves. I also read the books because if you get the men right, it’s much easier to get the women right. Here’s some of our favorite resources. Soli Deo Gloria!
Thoughts for Young Men by J.C. Ryle (read free online, or you can order it)
Fatherhood (Chapel Library)
A Husband’s Love (Chapel Library)
Places to purchase sound resources
These and other Christ-centered resources can be purchased from:
Some books are linked to my Amazon account; if you purchase through the links, I will receive a small commission at no extra cost to you. Soli Deo Gloria!