I’ve been asked on a number of occasions about what to do if you are the only one who covers during worship in your church. Sisters have asked me if they are drawing undue attention to themselves by covering alone. Or if perhaps being the only one who covers might be somehow immodest. The answer is, no, being the only sister in your church who covers is in no way immodest or drawing undue attention to yourself (which is what immodesty is). Since women are commanded by the Lord to cover when we come before Him in prayer and worship, we would be sinning if we refused to obey such a direct command of His.
Standing alone is hard. It’s even harder when you are liable to receive pushback, perhaps be put on the spot and questioned, or even be made fun of. For many of us who have become convicted that covering is a practice meant for today, we often have to stand alone.
Every movement has to start somewhere. When something begins, there always has to be one who was the first to step out, take up the cause, and be different. It’s not easy but it’s very often worth it. Concerning being the only one to wear a head covering during worship, it is a humble act of obedience to the Lord. It’s an act that says, “I will obey, even if no one else does.”
As a young man, Jonathan Edwards wrote down 70 Resolutions that he intended to live by. His first resolution was this: Resolved, that I will do whatsoever I think to be most to God’s glory, and my own good, profit and pleasure, in the whole of my duration, without any consideration of the time, whether now, or never so many myriads of ages hence. Resolved to do whatever I think to be my duty, and most for the good and advantage of mankind in general. Resolved to do this, whatever difficulties I meet with, how many and how great soever.
Sisters, we must have this kind of devotion to God’s glory.
When we are willing to stand alone, to bear embarrassment and perhaps even derision in order to do what we know is right, we are serving as an example and a teacher and the Lord is glorified by our obedience. Jesus said that if we love Him, we will obey Him. He didn’t add that we would do so if we were the only one doing so or if we weren’t embarrassed.
The commandment to cover is tied to creation order and throughout history, it was taught as such. Until the advent of feminism, it was expected that women would cover during worship. It was what your pastor and elders believed, what your church practiced, and what your family taught you. Certainly there were exceptions to this but it was, overall, this way. If you are interested in learning more about the history and purpose of head coverings or to study it more in-depth through sermons or commentaries, go here.
I and my daughters are the only ones who cover in our church. If I was alone in it, I would still cover because God’s Word commands it. When I was coming to covering, it took me a good amount of study and prayer to come to understanding. I pray that God opens the eyes of my congregation and of all of His people to this simple practice that speaks volumes about the importance of creation order.