Are you about to marry a child of the devil?

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Are you considering as a husband a child of the devil? Are you shocked that I would ask you that? Let me rephrase it. Is the man you are considering as a husband a Christian? Is he a child of God? Has he repented? Is he redeemed?

If the answer to these questions is no, then he is without a doubt a child of the devil.

Ephesians 5: 25-33, Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Marriage is a reflection of Christ and the church. A marriage made up of two of God’s redeemed is a blessing like no other. A marriage made up of one of God’s children and a child of the devil is a pain nearly unequaled in its intensity.

A child of the devil? some of you might say, You don’t know my Peter.

No, I don’t. But I don’t have to know your Peter to warn you: if he isn’t a child of God, he is a child of the devil. There are no other options, no in-betweens. There is no neutrality.

2 Corinthians 6: 14-15, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

If a man has not repented and been redeemed, then he is a child of the devil. And as the child of the devil, his goals, desires, hopes, longings, plans, ways, thoughts, words, and deeds will be completely opposite from those of a child of God.

Sister, if you marry a non-Christian, you will hurt every single day of every single year of your married life. Your beloved may be good to you. He may provide well, and be an attentive husband and father. But if he isn’t saved, your goals and his will be fundamentally different. You will want to serve and honor the Lord and he most assuredly will not. Thus he will pull you and your children in ways that are contrary to the will of God. Even if he assures you that he won’t, he will because this is who he is. He cannot be holy or desire to grow in holiness because he isn’t holy.

If the man you marry is a child of the devil, he will not serve God. He will naturally incline to ways that are contrary to God’s will. You may have fun together, he might be kind, but on the day of Judgement, that won’t matter. None of that will save him.

You will ache as you cry out to God for your husband’s salvation. You will cry as he influences your children in ways that will break your heart. And your heart will break as your children question the truth of God’s Word. I’ve walked this road. I know this pain. It is intense beyond anything you can now imagine.

The man I married was not a Christian. When we married I’d certainly believed him when he said he wanted to serve the Lord. Looking back, I realize that I wanted to believe him. Having been raised in abuse, I wanted to be loved. Nobody tried to guide me. No one came alongside of me to show me the pain I would endure if I chose to marry him. I was easy to convince when he said he was a Christian. I wasn’t spiritually mature enough to realize the danger that was just ahead.

Who you marry will be the man you will promise to obey, respect, honor, and submit to. While God still expects a woman married to a non-believer to submit to him unless he leads us astray, it will be much more painful to do so.

When you lower your standards in what you look for in a husband, you lower your standards for your children’s father. You cannot afford to forget this. And you cannot afford to be blind. An ungodly man will lead your children astray.

I chose wrong because no one guided me and I honestly thought I was choosing well. There were signs there that should have alerted me but they didn’t. I explained them all away without even realizing that I was. I tell you this because I care about you, your soul, and your life.

All these years later even though my husband sometimes went to church with me and he heard the Gospel fully presented many times, he was never saved. Throughout our marriage, he was violent, threatening, cruel, and he was addicted to pornography. Today, I am separated with biblical reasons for divorce. I don’t want you to walk this road.

I love the Lord. He is my life. Because of this, His people are precious to me. You, sister, are precious to me. Please listen. Don’t be so foolish as to think you can change a child of the devil into a child of God. Only the Holy Spirit can do that. Just because you want it to happen, doesn’t mean it will.

Consider well, my sister, pray, think about the kind of father you want for your children. Marry for God’s glory and not because you think he’s the right one. If he is not a Christian and you are, then he most assuredly is not the one the Lord has for you.

Soli Deo Gloria!

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  1. BibleGuy says:

    Hi sister if a man can’t say he puts his faith and trust in Christ alone for salvation when asked by a young Christian woman she better run cause like you said he’s a child of the devil. Any Christian woman asks me my answer is I put my faith and trust in Christ alone for salvation.

    1. Anna says:

      Amen, brother. It’s sad that in our modern times there are very few men and women who can actually say this.

  2. BibleGuy says:

    And amen. Yes I agree. So I got the Spurgeon KJV study Bible family member said something like with the Bibles I get I think it’s a stairways to Heaven or something like that. Have you ever heard me say that I have never said Bibles are my stairway to Heaven.

    1. Anna says:

      No, you haven’t. But don’t let people cause you to deny your devotion to God’s Word. People who don’t love the Lord and His Word have problems with those who do. Stand firm and if someone teases you, attacks you, or anything else, tell them that, yes, you are devoted to the Bible because it is literally the Word of God, spoken by Him, and as such it is the Word of life because it and it alone teaches us how to live and worship, how to prepare for heaven, and how to bring God glory. Have a blessed day. Soli Deo Gloria!

  3. BibleGuy says:

    Yes I agree. Years ago I I believe said to a family member the Lord will take care of me forsakes me or something like that and I believe they said will He take you to doctors appointments.

    Since I am disabled for His glory how would He take care of me if family ever turned their back on me I mean I don’t think they think they ever would but Jesus says a mans enemies is in his household.

    1. Anna says:

      One method the Lord uses to care for His own is through fellow believers. You need to be connected to a church. Call and see if they can come pick you up. I have no family outside of some distant cousins and my children. Because of my husband’s lies, several of my children have turned their back on me. I know what it’s like to have to rely completely and totally on the Lord. Yes, He will protect you.

  4. BibleGuy says:

    Have you read this verse? Romans 7:19-25
    King James Version
    19 For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.

    20 Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.

    21 I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.

    22 For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:

    23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.

    24 O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?

    25 I thank God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So then with the mind I myself serve the law of God; but with the flesh the law of sin.

    Ever notice how when we are in a trial are eyes are on the Lord but when there is no trials are eyes are not on the Lord.

    I know both of us hate sin but Paul was right we do what we shouldn’t and don’t do what we should

    How do we delight in the law of God?

    1. Anna says:

      By realizing that God is holy, His Word is true, and it’s our only hope of peace with Him, salvation, or a hope of life eternal. If we value something, we delight in it. For some it’s riches, health, fame, and so on. For you and me, brother, it’s the Word of God. The law is simply an expression of His holiness, His moral code, and what He expects from us. We can’t live up to it but Jesus did and He, having fulfilled it, is our righteousness. Our love for Him causes us to delight in Him and in His perfect truth. Soli Deo Gloria!

    1. Anna says:

      Thank you. I will.

      1. BibleGuy says:

        Your welcome.

  5. BibleGuy says:

    Yes He will protect us. We are picking up our dogs ashes today.

    1. Anna says:

      I’m so sorry about your dog. That is an ache that lasts. God is so good to give us dogs. I just wish they lived longer.

      1. BibleGuy says:

        Thank you. Yes I agree not to sound morbid but sometimes dogs can out live us and we them depends on God’s sovereign will. For those of us in our 30’s and or 20’s it can be bittersweet if those of my generation get married our dogs will never see that or get to take part in it. Same with grandparents they don’t get to see my generation get married or have kids just a personal observation.

      2. Anna says:

        Good observation, dear friend. Not morbid, simply true. Soli Deo Gloria!

  6. BibleGuy says:

    Part of what I said in a gab post I did. Jesus lived the perfect life we can’t and kept the law we can’t and died the death every single one of us deserves. We owed a debt we can’t pay and He paid a debt He didn’t owe. Our righteousness is as filthy rags as Isaiah says which is why we need His imputed righteousness by faith.

    As I believe RC Sproul said God is holy we are not

    1. Anna says:

      Amen, brother.

  7. BibleGuy says:

    check your website I tried to read your reply from a hour ago by clicking read more it show I voted -1 when I wasn’t try to vote I agree with what you said.

  8. Avril says:

    Thank you for the post !

    1. Anna says:

      You’re welcome. Soli Deo Gloria!

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