Are you considering as a husband a child of the devil? Are you shocked that I would ask you that? Let me rephrase it. Is the man you are considering as a husband a Christian? Is he a child of God? Has he repented? Is he redeemed?
If the answer to these questions is no, then he is without a doubt a child of the devil.
Ephesians 5: 25-33, Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Marriage is a reflection of Christ and the church. A marriage made up of two of God’s redeemed is a blessing like no other. A marriage made up of one of God’s children and a child of the devil is a pain nearly unequaled in its intensity.
A child of the devil? some of you might say, You don’t know my Peter.
No, I don’t. But I don’t have to know your Peter to warn you: if he isn’t a child of God, he is a child of the devil. There are no other options, no in-betweens. There is no neutrality.
2 Corinthians 6: 14-15, Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
If a man has not repented and been redeemed, then he is a child of the devil. And as the child of the devil, his goals, desires, hopes, longings, plans, ways, thoughts, words, and deeds will be completely opposite from those of a child of God.
Sister, if you marry a non-Christian, you will hurt every single day of every single year of your married life. Your beloved may be good to you. He may provide well, and be an attentive husband and father. But if he isn’t saved, your goals and his will be fundamentally different. You will want to serve and honor the Lord and he most assuredly will not. Thus he will pull you and your children in ways that are contrary to the will of God. Even if he assures you that he won’t, he will because this is who he is. He cannot be holy or desire to grow in holiness because he isn’t holy.
If the man you marry is a child of the devil, he will not serve God. He will naturally incline to ways that are contrary to God’s will. You may have fun together, he might be kind, but on the day of Judgement, that won’t matter. None of that will save him.
You will ache as you cry out to God for your husband’s salvation. You will cry as he influences your children in ways that will break your heart. And your heart will break as your children question the truth of God’s Word. I’ve walked this road. I know this pain. It is intense beyond anything you can now imagine.
The man I married was not a Christian. When we married I’d certainly believed him when he said he wanted to serve the Lord. Looking back, I realize that I wanted to believe him. Having been raised in abuse, I wanted to be loved. Nobody tried to guide me. No one came alongside of me to show me the pain I would endure if I chose to marry him. I was easy to convince when he said he was a Christian. I wasn’t spiritually mature enough to realize the danger that was just ahead.
Who you marry will be the man you will promise to obey, respect, honor, and submit to. While God still expects a woman married to a non-believer to submit to him unless he leads us astray, it will be much more painful to do so.
When you lower your standards in what you look for in a husband, you lower your standards for your children’s father. You cannot afford to forget this. And you cannot afford to be blind. An ungodly man will lead your children astray.
I chose wrong because no one guided me and I honestly thought I was choosing well. There were signs there that should have alerted me but they didn’t. I explained them all away without even realizing that I was. I tell you this because I care about you, your soul, and your life.
All these years later even though my husband sometimes went to church with me and he heard the Gospel fully presented many times, he was never saved. Throughout our marriage, he was violent, threatening, cruel, and he was addicted to pornography. Today, I am separated with biblical reasons for divorce. I don’t want you to walk this road.
I love the Lord. He is my life. Because of this, His people are precious to me. You, sister, are precious to me. Please listen. Don’t be so foolish as to think you can change a child of the devil into a child of God. Only the Holy Spirit can do that. Just because you want it to happen, doesn’t mean it will.
Consider well, my sister, pray, think about the kind of father you want for your children. Marry for God’s glory and not because you think he’s the right one. If he is not a Christian and you are, then he most assuredly is not the one the Lord has for you.
Soli Deo Gloria!